Con­trol (v): to main­tain influ­ence or author­ity over.

Since when did that become sex­u­ally attrac­tive? How do you explain to your teenage daugh­ter that what they do in Dar­fur is called rape, but here in the States it’s exot­ica at it’s finest? Oh, right because the woman/girl is ok with it. Why would any per­son be ok with some­one else con­trol­ling and caus­ing them pain?

Ladies…it is never okay for some­one who “loves” you to hurt you — phys­i­cally, men­tally, emo­tion­ally and most def­i­nitely sex­u­ally. Our gen­der has been fight­ing for gen­er­a­tions to free us from the image of prop­erty. And now it’s a fad to be con­trolled — as an inan­i­mate object — by another person?!

I don’t care that Fifty Shades of Grey is about sex­ual per­for­mances or that the writer has no writ­ing skills what­so­ever. I do care that women aren’t appalled by the fact that the book is turn­ing them on! A friend told me that she wishes some­one wanted her as much as Chris­t­ian wanted Ana. He didn’t want her as a lov­ing com­pan­ion and part­ner. He wanted to “f*** her”. Oh wow…be still my beat­ing heart…it must be true love.

I don’t want to be one of “those reviewers”…and I’m not. I did buy the first book and I wasn’t able to fin­ish it. It broke my heart in ways I haven’t felt in awhile. I had read so many reviews but no one really touched on the dis­turb­ing fact that women were turned on by a female author who talked about her own gen­der sign­ing up to be some­one else’s chat­tel.

I don’t care that they end up falling in love, get­ting mar­ried, he was sex­u­ally exploited him­self and needed a good woman to help him through, blah, blah, blah… I don’t care how you write it, pad it, or excuse it: it’s pathetic to our gen­der. We are bet­ter than that. You are bet­ter than that.

Any­thing else is a lie meant to destroy you.

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